Low self-esteem and anxiety are directly related to each other. When you have low self-esteem, you get anxiety while in a social establishment. Also, when you have anxiety, your self-esteem suffers a lot.
There are many reasons which can trigger anxiety in some people. Anxiety causes low self-esteem and vice versa too. I know that I am anxiety-prone. If I have to go somewhere, I feel discomfort. I cannot talk to my partner on any issue and keep everything to myself.
If I try to be normal with him, my anxiety levels increase, and when I stop talking to him and don’t bother about him, my life becomes much better. My trigger for anxiety is always around me😜. Even then I have learned how to cope with this kind of anxiety.
Even normal day to day situations can create anxiety in me. When you have anxiety and self-esteem issues, your friends and family can tell you by looking at you.
I remember a few years ago, one of my friends was trying to lift my confidence so that I can feel the happiness around me but I was in a constant state of worries. One day she was so upset with me, she said: “you enjoy being in stress and anxiety and I cannot do anything for you”.
Yes, my friend, you start enjoying being in stress when you are in a constant state of anxiety. If this is the case, put a stop on worries and take action to shift your state of mind.
That was the day I truly introspected myself. And then tried everything to lift me. She gave me some books to read.
- The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari ( Robin Sharma)
- The Ant and the Elephant by
- The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
- The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
And there were a lot more which I don’t even remember. I bought so many books to make a small library.
But sometimes, temporary fixes don’t help. You need some kind of professional intervention to cure anxiety. You may be suffering from Generalised Anxiety Disorder.
Generalised Anxiety Disorder
GAD is a state of constant chronic worry without any reason about the normal day to day lives. People with GAD are always worried about disasters and cannot relax.
If you feel like you are always in a state of anxiety, please don’t hesitate and take professional help.
If you feel anxiety under some situations only, there are few things you can do. As Jim Rohn said
The only way it gets better for you is when you get better. Better is not something you wish, it’s something you become. Jim Rohn
I know how you feel when you have an anxiety problem. You don’t want to meet anybody and cut off yourself socially. Instead of doing that, meet people. Start with your friends and family. Talk to them the way you used to talk to them.
Believe me, they always love you for who you are. Invite your close friends to your house. Have dinner with them. You will feel much better.
2. Spend time with confident people
It is important to surround your self with confident people, it will help you build your confidence. Spending time with people who have those traits which you want in your life will help you develop those skills
3. Positive affirmations
I know it is difficult to concentrate on positive things when you are going through low self-esteem and anxiety. But it is important to shift your mind from self-defeating thoughts.
There is no better way than teaching your mind to feel good and positive in any situation. Positive affirmations help to shift your thoughts even if it is for a few minutes. Practising it daily helps in boosting your positive energy.
Meditation is powerful. When you meditate, you become aware of your present, your body and of course your abilities.
Sometimes you are naturally prone to anxiety due to your genes but many times, it is due to some situations from the past. Meditate helps you shift your mind from the past and future and bring it to present.
5. Write down your capabilities
If you are feeling low and constantly think that you are worthless, then start writing down your accomplishments until today. I am sure you will be able to find quite a few. This will let you believe in your own self.
You may have won some sports competitions, essay competitions or any cultural activities during school or college. You were there in those competitions due to your capabilities.
You have those strengths even now. So, don’t feel bad. Just remember, it may be the present situation which is making you miserable.
6. Stop thinking that people are judging you
Do you always think that people are looking at you that you may not have dresses properly?
This happens because we as humans are always focused on our selves. This is true for everybody. Even for the others who we think may be judging us. So the point is, everybody is so centred around their own looks and appearance, they don’t have time to judge us.
If this is the case, there is nothing to worry about your looks and other people. What other people want to experience is how you perceive them. instead of worrying about, do these
- Be polite with everyone
- talk with confidence( even if you have low esteem, try to be brave next time)
- Feel that you have all the qualities to be accepted
You will start feeling good as soon as you will know that others have similar insecurities too.
7. Start paying Gratitude
Gratitude is such a powerful word, which can elevate your thoughts as soon as you start implementing it. If you are reading this post, I am sure either you feel low self-esteem and anxiety or you think that you may have this problem.
- Start paying gratitude now.
- Think about 3 gifts you have which make you a great human being. It could be anything like your life, your family, you are healthy.
- whatever you have achieved till now
Paying gratitude will let you feel that how fortunate you are that you are healthy, you have family, you are alive. Health should not be taken granted for. Ask a chronically ill person and you will know the value of being healthy.
8. Start getting excited again
When you are having low self-esteem and anxiety, you don’t feel excited about anything. This happens due to lost interest in everything. Most of the time your mind is occupied with worries and stress, which prevent you from feeling the happiness around you.
Think like a child. Have you seen how children get excited about anything? Become a child again and bring that excitement again in your life.
I hope this will help you raise your self-esteem. If nothing works, please go to a professional and seek help. I have seen that sometimes even talking to your Physician helps a lot. As I told you, I am anxiety-prone. Just a few days ago, I went to my GP and cried there. I am feeling good now. Their words can do magic.
This advice is just for information, which I try on myself. Please seek medical help if you have chronic anxiety.
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