Self-esteem and procrastination are interrelated. Procrastinators tend to have lower self-esteem. And people with low esteem are chronic procrastinators. Build your self-esteem and learn how to stop procrastination.
Procrastination originates from many things happening around you. It may be due to your previous experiences, life during childhood or some mental illness. Whatever it may be, you should strive to improve yourself. If required, go to a professional and get some medical help.
Self Esteem: Self-esteem is the overall feeling of the self we have. It can be low or high. In psychology, it is the overall feeling of a person about self-worth.
As humans, we think that we are born with all the capacities and skills required to live a happy life. On the contrary, we all have a mix of skills. Comparing our own capabilities to another person can take us into the never-ending hole of negative thoughts.
If the thought goes on and on and on, it affects your self-esteem. As women, we go through many life-changing circumstances which affect our career as well as physical appearance. These changes can have positive as well as a negative effect on our personal lives.
Procrastination: Etymologically, “Procrastination is the word derived from Latin word Procrastinare which means “to put off until tomorrow”.
Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone. Pablo Picasso
It is not laziness, it is putting off your work for some other time. This is something you do voluntarily. It can happen due to not having confidence that you will be able to accomplish the said task. Or you don’t want to come out of your comfort zone. It is something related to our emotions, not time management.
Researches have shown that procrastination emerges from the need of mood repair of present self on the expense of future self.
And the list of unaccomplished tasks may let you feel that you are good at nothing.
So, low self-esteem and procrastination are directly proportional to each other. There are a few steps you can take to build self-esteem and stop procrastination
How to stop procrastination and build self-esteem
1. Be aware of the problem
The most important feeling is to become aware of the situation. If you know that you have low self-esteem, it is highly that you would love procrastinating too. Procrastinating is such a hidden problem that you cannot do anything if you will not recognise it.
In order to accomplish something, we need to have confidence in ourselves that we are capable of doing the said task. Lack of confidence will let us procrastinate. Most of us do this at some point of time but if this is the case with even smallest day to day tasks, you need to introspect your inner strength.
The solution only comes from the awareness of the problem.
2. Let go of the perfection
Sometimes, low self-esteem originates from the feeling that you may not be able to do a task perfectly. There is nothing wrong with doing something perfectly but putting it off for the perfect time is a problem.
As we all know, perfection comes from practice. So start taking action. Simply, just do it.
3. Resolve small tasks immediately
Some of the small tasks take a lot of energy from your mind if you don’t complete them. They start building up in your mind and becomes a big hurdle for other important tasks.
Have you ever noticed how many times you came across that bill while checking your email but you always leave it for next time? And then whenever you have to start something important, that bill will come into your thoughts again. It will again divert your mind, waste some time and you will put it off for some other time.
The best option is to pay the bill online if you can, get rid of it and move on to your most important task.
4. Surround yourself with those people who believe you
Low self-esteem can be the result of your inner feelings about how others think about you. Finding those people who can help you build a solid foundation of self-beliefs is hard but they exist around us.
These people can teach you how can you be happy and productive by knowing your inner strengths. Associating with these type of people is a bit difficult when you have low self-esteem, but it is doable.
5. Take action
Taking action is the key to stop procrastination.
This is the most important step if you want to beat procrastination. There is no pill that can let you start working but taking action is really therapeutic in terms of procrastination. Starting your work will take you towards accomplishment. But if you will not start working and take action, you will miss the boat.
Once you will start something, you will definitely accomplish it. ‘ Take action Now ‘.
Gradually it will help you start building confidence in your capabilities. You will learn that you are much more than what you have started believing about yourself.
6. Make a strategy when you are feeling motivated
Yes, motivation is a big buzzword. But it is also a big reality of our psychology. There are some moments when you really feel motivated to do something. This is the time to seal the motivation. Because it will vanish and your mind will again come to its original comfort zone. At this moment, write down for what you are feeling motivated and start with a headline for your project or task.
Put a reminder to work on that. Make a strategy to complete that task. Take this task seriously and don’t think about other things at the moment. Once you will be able to accomplish the task in hand, your self-confidence will be higher. You will be better prepared to tackle the next task.
7. Challenge yourself
What you can do is challenge your beliefs about yourself. If you think that a certain project in hand is too complicated to handle and you will start working on it later when you have a good amount of time.
- Change this by breaking down the project and assure yourself that you will accomplish the task in small intervals instead of doing it at once.
- If the procrastination behaviour is coming from the thought of perfectionism, just start the task. Think ‘practice makes a man perfect.
Challenging your own beliefs and coming out of comfort zone will help you build self-esteem and stop procrastination.
8. Start rewarding yourself on small accomplishments
Sometimes you get caught in the never-ending self-blame, that you stop seeing your own accomplishments. Rewards are necessary as the mind loves rewards. When exposed to a rewarding stimulus, the brain responds by increased release of the neurotransmitters dopamine.
Rewarding yourself on small accomplished will inspire you to take bigger and complicated tasks with enthusiasm.
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